a friend of mine from Delhi married to Russian lady, have son
recently got mail from him:
business is fine once again.had ups downs in life.was in moscow for around 7/8 months due pressure from my wife (N) as she didnt want stay in india.but now iam separated from her and back to india alone.
yes margerita i know many difficulties there in cultures etc etc.but now we had a child.
even i tried to settle over moscow leaving and finishing my florished business from delhi.i sat in moscow also witout any work for 5 months waiting for papers(resident visa) as witout it i couldnt work.bt there govt. told nt posible before 11 months to get that as rules of govt. changed.
my only mistake was that before leaving india i sold out all my property/car etc as i was nt intend to come back to india fr settlement for happiness of my wife.
but certain situations arised there and my chasni visa also finished.extension couldnt happen.tension started between me and my wife.she didnt intend to come back with me here as she was already in job there.
i tried to convince her in ever posible way and also guarenteed her job once again in aeroflot in delhi.bt she was adament.so at last i didnt had other options bt to return back leaving everything in russia.i again started fresh in delhi as when i retnd i didnt had place to leave also.so bt step by step from last 7/8 months i settled once again.now once again business picked up and took flat,car.now we deceided to be separated though it was decesion from her side.so this my story.
my family is with me as well as my in laws.they support me a lot bt they even also couldnt change the mind of natalia.its seems she is in some dreams nd dont want to come to reality.
i very much tried as husband to make married life okay for shake of our child who dont have any fault.bt now given up as she dont want listen to anybody.so stopped even calling her or take her calls from last 3/4 months.
i have started a new life again though i nt divorced her as my divorce petition in court will also cancel her and my sons resident permits and PIO cards of india.your country rule is such that even i cant bring my son for short stay in india with me witout her consent.and my parents specially my dad who is very sick also dying to meet my son.so all sorts of mentall tension went with me and still going thinking what step to do next.most dissappointing things is that N is nt in very good job there .only managing expenses which affecting my child upbringing also.i stopped paying her as i made very sure that i will nt pay her fr anything to stay in moscow.she has to come back here or to send me divorce.so lets see what time does.till now she dont have any mood to comeback.
okay.sorry fr all mess iam writing and disturbing you.actually i messed up my life here which was very smooth till last year.my 1 wrong step messed up everything that is thinking of settling in moscow because of intense pressure from my wife for last 2 years after my child birth to settle in moscow...so, whats ur opinion?